Dear sons and daughters of planet Earth! I AM SANANDA!

My heart is always filled with joy every time I can be here, a little closer to your hearts.

Today I want to talk about a light-hearted but very important subject – self-care.

Many of you have become accustomed to always looking out for others, taking care of others, and taking on tasks that often belong to others; because you have an immense need for acceptance, to be loved, to be needed. This was your way of being part of someone’s life, of being important to someone; and inside your mind, you think that you would be more loved if you did all this.

I believe that today you have already learned that this is not Love. This kind of action to receive Love doesn’t work, because human beings aren’t like that. Few people are truly grateful for everything they receive from other people. Giving yourself to others, and caring for others, is something that has to be light and easy because if it becomes heavy, difficult, or painful, this care is wrong; This caring is excessive, it’s not coming from the heart. It’s more of an obligation than an actual feeling of helping.

And why am I saying all this? Because within this whole process, in which you give of yourselves, give of yourselves, give of yourselves, do for the other, help the other, take care of the other, you forget about yourself. The main being in your life is yourself; there is no other. We can say that there are priorities, and the first priority of every human being is to take care of themselves. Because if you don’t take care of yourself, at some point there will be a return, a bill. And then you will discover that you are sicker than you realize; that you need help, care, and attention more than you realize.

But then you ask yourself: “How am I going to do it? I have to look after so many people. I have so many commitments, I have so many things to do. How am I going to stop?” And you don’t. And that process, which often started small, becomes chronic, becomes acute, and becomes a big problem. What’s the solution?

I understand that it’s not easy, because you’ve taken on so many things that you can no longer delegate; you can’t stop. But I would say that there is always a key point in all of this. There are the day-to-day tasks that are everyone’s responsibility. So why not let everyone take care of their own tasks? Start there, letting everyone do what is their responsibility; and let everyone go their own way. I guarantee you that this will help a lot.

Second point: set yourself limits. When someone comes…, “Can you do that for me? Oh, I’m sorry, I can’t do it today”. Know how to say no. You don’t have to be rude, or crude; no. Just apologize, which wouldn’t be necessary because it’s not entirely up to you, and say you can’t.  Divide the tasks that aren’t yours with the real owners. No one will love you anymore because you do everything for them. Don’t have this illusion. 

Third point: have downtime. Create moments of downtime in your day. And what are downtimes? That moment when you’re going to look at the sky, you’re going to look at the movement in the street, you’re going to look at a plant, you’re going to pet a plant, you’re going to talk to a plant, you’re going to play with your animals, you’re going to play with your children. “Ah, but I work, I don’t have that kind of downtime” Everyone does. Find 5 minutes. I guarantee you that if you explain it to your boss, you’ll need those 5 minutes to recover your energy. At first, he won’t like it very much, but then he’ll start to realize that you’ve changed in your work, that you’re more attentive; he’ll realize that you’re much more productive by taking these short breaks. 

Learn to make them respect you. “Oh, there’s more here.” “No, I can’t take on anything else.” Don’t take on more than you can handle. Set priorities. Set a timetable for each thing. As I once said here: Don’t plan. Because planning is living in the future and forgetting to live in the present. So live each task intensely in the present moment. Forget about what lies ahead. You’ve chosen that task to do, just focus on it. Forget everything else.

Have your spiritual moment. I’m going to tell you this: the spiritual moment isn’t about doing 10 meditations, 30 prayers, talking, talking, talking.  A spiritual moment is to be silent. It’s simply sitting down, connecting with your Divine Presence; and staying there, still. Of course, you won’t succeed. Because your head will be saying: “With so much to do and you sitting there thinking about I don’t know what”. Forget the ego. The ego is not the physical body.

So learn to take this time gradually. For the first week, stay a minute. Just one minute. Set an alarm, whatever you have, so you don’t have to worry about opening your eyes to look at the time. Close your eyes and breathe deeply during this time. Put on some background music. And always use the same music. This is important because the brain will start to realize: “Um, every time she puts on this song, she stops”. And it will start to stop itself.

So start the first week with one minute. The second week, two minutes. Do you realize that it’s not quick and it’s not easy? Quieting your mind is extremely difficult. And it will be at that moment when you stop, that all your guides, your masters, will be around you. You don’t have to ask. We’ll be there, looking after you. Because at that moment you’re saying to us: “Look, I’ve stopped. I’m taking care of myself!” And we’ll be there, looking after you too. Bringing energy, and cleaning your aura. Because you’re giving yourself that time.

You see? You’re not doing anything, just breathing and resting for that time. And little by little, you’re increasing that time. And I would say, until when? Until what time? As long as you can. A time that is comfortable, and pleasant. Nothing can be forced. As long as your body allows. You can do it lying down. “Oh, but I’m going to sleep!” Look at the worry. What if you do? What’s the problem? Will you be penalized for this?  Will someone complain that you slept? Let them. Have you failed to do something for someone? Let them take over. “Oh, but I have small children” Do it after they’ve gone to sleep. Because nobody has to look after adults. With a few exceptions, I understand. But do it at a time when no one will need you.

So, if you sleep, take a good nap, and relax. It’s a sign that your body is saying: “I need this”. Try it. Try to quiet your mind during this time. Put on some music and let yourself be carried away by it. Let the music guide every cell in your body. And the mind will tend to shut up. Because you’ll be saying to it: “I want you to shut up.” Who’s in charge? It’s you.

Take care of yourselves, my sons and daughters. And I’ll say more; this time will be very important for your bodies to change. Take that time for transformation. And start observing all the changes that will happen. Believe in it. You will notice.

Translator: Viviana Accorsi